The Beauty of Wearing Your Baby

There is a lot of joy to be found in holding your babies. You get to feel their warm little bodies. You get stared down by the most beautiful eyes ever, and you get to investigate every little nook and cranny up close.

There is also a lot of burden in holding your babies. Your back and arms ache. You must learn how to do lots of things one-handed. You sometimes can't move around a lot because you might rouse her awake.

The perfect solution? Wear your baby.

At first, I wasn't sure how I felt about the whole thing. I have a bad back as well as bad shoulders, so I never thought I would really be able to wear the girls for long periods of time. Tim and I both received Baby Bjorns, but I figured those would be mostly for trips to football games or the zoo. I thought about getting a wrap carrier for home use, but decided against it when I thought there was no way a piece of cloth could really keep my girls secure.

Well, I was wrong. After a few weeks of aching arms and a hunched back, as well as maneuvering with one arm as I desperately clutched a baby in the other, I thought it was time to try one of these wrap things. I've fallen completely in love with my Sleepy Wrap. It's comfortable, soft, and the girls are probably more secure in it than they are when I just carry them in my arms. I can eat, wash dishes, prepare bottles and read with both hands!

It took some getting used to. I mean, it's a 10 foot long piece of fabric you have to wrap around yourself. But after getting the hang of it, I love it. The only downside is that you have to take the time to wrap it, and if you wait until your baby is crying, it will get frustrating. My suggestion? If you know you're going to be busy all day, go ahead and put it on. When you're ready for the baby, it's already wrapped and ready to go.

There are many moms who are afraid of having their little bundles of joy all wrapped up in a bundle. The baby won't stretch out enough. She'll get too hot in there. There's lot of worry. But think about this--for nine months or so, your child was inside your body curled up with far less space than you'll have in that piece of cloth you're wearing. These same children can tuck themselves into little balls while they're sleeping. They like being snug as a bug. And when they need to stretch, believe me, they will. Both Lillie and Dani have given me good punches to the chin when they're ready to give those arms some breathing room.

Both of the girls sleep better in the wrap. I feel better because at least one of them is close by. I have yet to try putting them both in the wrap, even though the site says it's possible. I just don't think I could really carry around 20 lbs comfortably, so for now, just one at a time. Maybe when they're older I can wrap one and hold the other. Don't worry, I'll take a picture if that happens!

If you don't think the Sleepy Wrap is your cup of tea, head on over to The Baby Wearer and check out their articles on wraps, carriers, and slings. I'm sure there's one for you because no matter how much you love holding your babies, your arms will start to protest!

Getting Creative with Cash

Having a baby is expensive. Having two babies is doubly so. We go through at minimum of 16 diapers a day, an economy-sized container of formula every four days, and a pack of wipes once a week, not to mention utility costs of washing bottles and clothes and babies! We also have two bouncers, two double strollers, two car seats, two Baby Bjorns, two cribs and two Pack n Plays.

With that said, believe you me, I'm always looking for a deal. Since I know I'm not the only parent who's looking for ways to keep more cash in the bank, I thought I would share some tips.

Comparison shop like nobody's business

Just because one place says they have the lowest price doesn't mean they really do. When I was looking for the cheapest diapers, I looked at Walmart, Target, K-Mart, Costco, Amazon, and Diapers.com. With shipping costs and diaper pack sizes taken into account, Amazon looked to have the cheapest price with their awesome Subscribe and Save program. You set up an account to have items automatically delivered to you. There's free shipping and you save 15% using the program. Then I did the math, with the 15%, Pampers Swaddlers were $0.21/diaper. At Diapers.com, I could get a larger case for $0.18/diaper. What's three cents, you ask? A savings of nearly $15 a month.

Sign up for everything

Pampers, Similac, Enfamil, and Huggies all have programs. You get coupons, free samples, and points towards free stuff. It's great. Publix has a Baby Club where you receive coupons for the first two years of life. There's also MyPoints.com where you can earn points for online purchases. Just last month, I used my points to get a $50 iTunes giftcard. (If you need a referral, let me know!) Bank of America has a cashback program. Babies r Us has an awards program. And if you give Carters your information, you'll get wonderful coupons in the mail nearly every month. I don't think I've paid full price for clothes at Carters ever.

DO NOT, though, sign up for things at Motherhood Maternity. They're evil and will send you subscriptions that are not free.

Brand names aren't all that

We are feeding the girls Similac Sensitive formula. It's right around $1/oz. Target's brand Up & Up is $0.60/oz and has the same ingredients. We're trying it this coming week to see if it works. If it does, that's a savings of $80 a month! Store brand diapers are also less expensive and sometimes work just as well. We're about to try out Luvs since I discovered they're made by the same company as Pampers but run about $0.16/diaper. Granted, Luvs are name brand, but they're discount.

Research, research, research

What's the difference between Good Start, Enfamil, and Similac? Is baby oil necessary? Where's the best place to get a baby gear? Do I need this or that? I didn't know the answer to any of these questions, so I started asking. I asked friends who are parents, I asked my mom and MIL. I signed up on forums (Twinstuff and The Bump being my favorites). I read a gazillion reviews online. (Always take the time to read the reviews on products, it's worth your time.) Do not be afraid to ask a million questions. You'll find lots of good advice (and some bad), but all of it will help you spend money more wisely.

For example, Tim & I bought our cribs at Walmart. We found the same cribs at other places for twice as much. It turns out the company who makes them distributes them to different places under different names--all the same quality and construction just with different price tags.

Coupons are wonderful

As I've already mentioned, sign up for stuff to get coupons. But you can also find all kinds of online coupons as well as coupons in your Sunday paper. Clip, clip, clip away!

Substitute where possible

Do you really need a diaper pail or will a nice sturdy trash can do the trick? Do you a need a white noise machine when you can get speakers for your iPod? Is separate baby detergent necessary when All Free & Clear is much cheaper and has no scent? Is there stuff you would like to buy that you (or a friend or family member) can make on your own? Always weigh the pros and cons of getting specific products versus general items that will do the same job. Sometimes it's worth it and will save you in the end.

Do not shun hand-me-downs
If it's clean, in good shape and safe, by all means, let people give or sell you their old stuff. Only trust a good friend or family member if you take a used car seat, though. You never know if it's been in an accident. Cribs older than five years should be carefully inspected and researched. Safety regulations have changed, and old cribs aren't always worth the money saved.

Definitely look for consignment shops and special sales in your area. There are tons of mommy groups that have huge sales once a year.

Sometimes the investment is worth it
I didn't spend money on diaper pails, mobiles, fancy sheets and such. But I wouldn't compromise on a very comfy rocker recliner for the nursery. Granted, I didn't pay for it (thank you, Walt & Marsha), but I would have willingly laid down the money for it. Having a quality piece like that will last long after the girls are out of their rocking years and will work in our family room where Tim will lounge and play video games. The same goes for convertible cribs. We did save by purchasing from Walmart, but we paid a little more so the beds would stay with Lillie & Dani through teen years (hopefully).

Save Money on Diapers!

This isn't really a blog entry as much as one more way for me to save money on diapers (and for you to do the same).

Parents, if you haven't discovered it yet, Diapers.com is a wonderful place to buy diapers and other baby products. I've searched everywhere (and I do mean everywhere) for the best deal on diapers, and it's on this website. What's also great is that they have fast delivery, a great return policy, and a plethora of choices. When the girls are running low on diapers, all I have to do is sit down in front of my computer and place an order, and since I'm always spending more than $49, I get free shipping. They carry everything from diapers to pacifiers to clothes.

Check it out by using the link over there to the right. If you order (and you really, really should), then use my referral code. You get $10 off and I do too!!